Brule Hunt #6

Sunday, February 26, 2023, 12:00 – 1:30 PM UTC

Topic: Interactions - being authentically nice vs. people pleasing Let's dive into our past together, find some juicy brules, and support each other to find ways to interact with people in healthier ways in 2023! If this event vibes with you, please RSVP asap!

Coffee and Tea

About this event

We shape each other on a daily basis. Human interactions are what makes us who we are by a great measure. It's always been so. And it doesn;t look like our neurology will evolve beyond our need for connection. 

Some of us might have been born into families where for different reasons, we were led to conclude that adopting a people pleasing model to go through life is the safest option to stay connected with parents, siblings, authority figures. 

And then... as grown ups we copy paste such model of interacting into our intimate relationships, friendships, etc. 

People pleasing is a coping style. It is usually an approach used for control and manipulation, oftenly existing in codependent relationships, but not necessarily.

People pleasing is doing things that you don't want, saying YES to proposals and situations for which you deep down know you should say NO to. It is not about being aligned with your own values, beliefs, deal breakers and preferences. This coping style is usually motivated by the fear of abandonment, neglect and isolation.

Do you recognize yourself in people pleasing patterns? Would you like to dig in and discover some brules that might have led you to adopt such coping style? 

I would love us to hold space with each other and exchange our stories, beliefs and needs without trying to change or enforce anything on each other. Let's discuss and help each other hunt some Brules.

This is where growth begins. By identifying the source of the issue. Or at least by finding some small clue that might push us toward the right direction in our (inter)personal and spiritual growth. 

Once a BRULE is brought to your awareness and you start questioning it, it slowly stops having power over you <3!


No preparation is required for this event. However, if you would like to watch some resources in advance, the link below is recommended:

Here is the Matthew Hussey's video titled: How to Stop Being a People Pleaser?

To facilitate our discussion, please feel free to think of a few events and relevant limiting beliefs that might hold you back from being authentically nice to others, rather than people please. 

If you don't have time to do it, you can just come and get into the flow of sharing. You might be surprised at the power of your inner wisdom ;)

For the purpose of having intimate and free flowing discussion, this event is for up to 10 people.
P. s.: 

If you are a newbie to Mindvalley and the concept of a BRULE isn't familiar to you, please refer to the following definition coined by Vishen Lakhiani:

"A Brule is a bullshit rule that society adopts to simplify its understanding of the world."


  • Gregor Obrez


    Local Host, Estonia


  • Silja Paulus

    Loovelu OÜ

    Local Coordinator, Tallinn

  • Laura Roman

    Local Coordinator, Tallinn

  • Katrin Vilimaa-Otsing

    Turunduskoolitus OÜ

    Mindvalley Local Host, Tallinn

  • Dario Hamidi

    Bolt Technologies OÜ

    Mindvalley Local Host, Tallinn

  • Steve Allen

    Wisdom Discovery

    Community Manager, Mindvalley

  • Anastasia Platitsyna